the idea that energy is not created nor destroyed, but instead transferred into different mediums is beautiful...i think love works that way too. i think about the lovers i’ve had in my past & how losing their love led me to find love from kinder people & to transfer my love from romantic to platonic.
after every major heart break i’ve had, it forced me to find the people that are meant to be in my life-i’m a big believer in this. the stories shared between myself & my old lovers never became dead because they lived in the chatter between my friends & i in late night drive conversations that filled the empty air of the car or in waiting rooms to pass the time.
i saw little parts of my lovers in the new friends i made. i saw it in the times we shared the same sense of humor, in the times they listed intently to the things i had to say, i saw it the hugs the gave in times of need, & i saw it in the texts on my phone that read of care & love, & i saw it in the acts of service done for me from the heart.
in between moments in life, i would laugh to myself & remember that in times they were missing me i couldn’t reciprocate a mutual feeling because of the love that was transferred from them to the people in my life that shared their love with me. the loss of romantic love made me see all the ways my friends could give me what romance never could. &, even if my friends & i grow apart, the way most do due to timing & change, i will buy them a drink when i think of them, even if they are not there to take it. romantic relationships aren’t needed when the people around you show you love in every form that you didn’t think you needed.
choose to love your past lovers from a distance through the love of the friends who love you back. choose to love your friends a little extra as they repair all the part of you that weren’t loved correctly or as intently as you had wished. all friendships make the conscious and intentional choice to love you as you are, with no extra favors in return other than your presence & care; transfer the love you had for one person & give it to your friends to be rebuilt. it’s not a coincidence you have good friends, you have good friends because you are good.
with all my love,
♡steff
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